"cazzyodo" (cazzyodo)
09/26/2013 at 15:33 • Filed to: Planelopnik
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"cazzyodo" (cazzyodo)
09/26/2013 at 15:33 • Filed to: Planelopnik | 0
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Ok guys and gals, here's the deal. My buddy is getting married this weekend and I'm his best man! Wooo! Well, I'm flying down with my girlfriend and another buddy and while it's not a long flight my girlfriend is a little anxious.
!!!error: Indecipherable SUB-paragraph formatting!!! But I also figured that there could be other useful methods out there.
Anyone have anxiety about traveling? How have you dealt with it? Any suggestions?
note: I'm going to be sending her a link to this so please be constructive. Thanks!
Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:37 |
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Snakes on a Plane was fiction.
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Maybe...
Buckner
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:37 |
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I like to find the most nervous looking person and just after the door closes say "welp, its out of your hands now, we either make it and land no problem or we don't land at all, Might as well have a cocktail"
so far....100% success rate of making it.
corvairsomeday2
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:42 |
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Flying is safer than driving, per passenger, per mile.
http://www.anxieties.com/86/flying-hows…
ttyymmnn
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:42 |
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Here's a statistic for you: If you were to get on a commercial flight, at random, every day, it would be 100 years before you were statistically likely to be involved in a crash. And then, odds are that you would survive.
Also, this: Airline Industry at Its Safest Since the Dawn of the Jet Age
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cazzyodo
> corvairsomeday2
09/26/2013 at 15:43 |
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Thank you, I will pass this on to her. Like it says, she knows it is safe but when something unknown happens...yup.
PelicanHazard
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:44 |
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1] Airplanes can hold up to extreme stresses, well beyond what is normal and expected in flight.
2] It is statistically safer to fly than drive.
4] Plane crashes are incredibly rare. Name four crashes on US soil since September 11. Can't? Yeah, they're that rare.
5] If the worst happens, don't worry. Plane crashes are actually highly survivable.
!!! UNKNOWN CONTENT TYPE !!!
PRBot II
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:45 |
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I don't have a fear of flying, but these usually make the flight go by a lot faster. They're about five bucks per bottle on board.
desertdog5051
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:47 |
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I don't have a phobia about flying, I just don't like to do it. Maybe a little claustrophobic. So I sit on the aisle so I can get up easily and move around. Helps me.
dinobot666
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:49 |
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A pilot friend of mine told it to me like this. Basically when a plane is flying, the amount of lift that it creates is so great that it's like the plane is suspended in Jello.
It's nearly impossible for the plane to fall out of the sky, unless something catastrophic was to happen, which statistically, it doesn't. So yeah, a plane in the sky is like the terrible Jello salad that your aunt brings to the family reunion every year that has little slices of lettuce in it, and those little slices of lettuce are like the airplane, and are suspended there.
Not sure if that helps, but enjoy your Jello salad.
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cazzyodo
> desertdog5051
09/26/2013 at 15:50 |
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I have the aisle seat cuz I never have enough leg room, but that means she can get out when she wants. So I'll be sure she has that option!
Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:51 |
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1. Get drunk
2. Don't sleep for a while until the flight so that you fall asleep with the drone of the engines.
3. Fly so frequently that you find it so tedious that you fall asleep before the plane even rotates (true story)
/bad advice
The Real Dacia Sandero
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:52 |
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I would say to ensure you have everything ready for going through security. Double check that everything in your carryon is allowed and properly packaged. Dress in such a way that you can take off shoes, accessories, etc quickly. Sailing through security without issue makes the whole experience much more pleasant.
Also, once your through security, get a favorite drink/snack and bring any kind of entertainment that you can really focus on be it a magazine, book, movie, video game, etc. Flights are boring, so be sure you have varying forms of entertainment in order to stay distracted.
This may be questionable advice, but if it's a long flight, maybe stay up really late or something the night before.That way all you will want to do when you get on the plane is go to sleep.
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Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:53 |
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On a serious note, try whatever relaxes her before the flight. Music, dance, prayers, cute babies, kittens, dogs whatever. Take her mind off it. Get her to sleep if nothing else works. Sleeping pills (I don't advocate but might be useful).
Chteelers
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:54 |
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I also have a debilitating fear of flying. I used to be fine, I'm an aerospace engineer, so I know all the minutiae of airplanes, turbulence, etc but all the knowledge in the world can't fight fear. Fear simply takes place in a different part of your brain than cognitive knowledge. I KNOW the odds of anything happening are incredibly small, it's WAY safer than driving to the airport, blah, blah. Knowing that has never helped. The ONLY thing that ever helped me was drugs. Doctors are pretty easy about writing a prescription if you explain the situation.
First drug I tried was Ativan (Lorazepam), which was kind of like treating a migraine with an advil. It helped a little, but was quite insufficient. Next I tried Xanax, which felt like taking an allergy pill to treat a cough; good for treating low-level chronic anxiety but not helpful for an acute attack, plus it made me quite foggy and weak-kneed. Finally tried Valium, and it totally worked. Brought on a calm state of mind, without any side effects other than being a bit drowsy.
Also, for a lot of people, fear of flying is often not so much about the actual airplane/flying bit, it's often more a fear of not being in control, or fear of having an embarrassing breakdown in front of people, or some other fear. And know that fear is a conditioned response. When she thinks about flying, if she goes down a mental path that starts at 'A' which leads to 'B' and then leads to doom, then anytime she starts thinking about 'A' she'll go immediately to doom. It can help to break the cycle by 'walking back' towards positive outcomes. Start small, think of something happy like holding hands, then think of the fun times you'll have when you get there, etc you get the idea. Just as you can step towards negative thoughts that provoke fear, you can step towards positive thoughts that encourage optimism.
Hope that's all helpful.
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desertdog5051
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:55 |
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Have her try walking or just standing like near the rear of the plane where the attendants have their area. Might help.
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cazzyodo
> The Real Dacia Sandero
09/26/2013 at 15:57 |
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I've been traveling a lot recently so I have no doubt we'll soar through security and everything. The concern is once on board, bam, anxiety.
Enginerrrrrrrrr
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 15:57 |
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If the over 70,000 miles I have flown this year alone have told me anything, it's that flying is just like sitting in a chair and watching tv or reading a book or something. You basically sit down and just end up somewhere else. There's nothin to it. I have had some crazy turbulence where it felt like a roller coaster and had a super hard landing in a freakin 747. Guess what, everything ended up fine. Driving is seriously more dangerous than flying anyways.
If that doesn't work, get her boozed up enough so that she is relaxed for the flight. Not drunk... they don't much like that.
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cazzyodo
> Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
09/26/2013 at 15:59 |
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When in doubt, tumblr. Good idea.
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cazzyodo
> Chteelers
09/26/2013 at 16:01 |
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I like your last section immensely. I had never thought of that! Thank you!
BJ
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:02 |
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BrazilianRobotics
> Chteelers
09/26/2013 at 16:04 |
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I get vertigo during banking manures and elevation changes. I used to fear what might happen, as it used to feel like I would go from normal to stomach is about to initiate auto purge in 2 seconds. This would then bring an adrenalin rush because I was in public, making things worse.
Then I had to fly a lot for business. And I decided to deal with this the way I have dealt with all my other fears... MOAR!!! Not just dropping resistance but throwing out the welcome mat. You scare me, I want to see you more often! Since that flight every time they do something with the airplane I want more, I enjoy it. I sit in the back of the airplane hoping for turbulence.
maximillious
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:06 |
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Your chances of being involved in a plane crash is something like 1:4.5 Million. your chance of actually dying in a plane crash is even more remote. On a daily basis you ride in a car and it is EXPONENTIALLY more likely that you will die in a car accident. At least when you are flying a plane you know your being flown by a trained pilot under alot of regulation along with anyone else in the sky... that cannot be said about driving down the interstate. You actually have a better chance of winning the Lottery than being involved in a plane crash. and believe it or not its more likely you will get struck by lightning or die of bee stings.
Sorry if I made your gf fear everything but flying in a plane.
95HondaV6
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:10 |
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Truth:
These of her
choice
This in a plastic
container
Enjoy a soothing and smooth flight!
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The Real Dacia Sandero
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:11 |
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I think they allow certain food items through security. Load up on chocolate...
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cazzyodo
> The Real Dacia Sandero
09/26/2013 at 16:12 |
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That would ensure no problems whatsoever!
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Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:12 |
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If you want to help her further, find out exactly what freaks her out about flying. Is it the physical sense of butterflies in the tummy or just a mental block. Have a frank talk with her and try to get a sense of it. That way, it becomes easier to help her overcome it. Physical might be easier to fight.
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cazzyodo
> Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
09/26/2013 at 16:16 |
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I've tried. Every time I bring address a concern it gets, not ignored...but maybe discounted. The primary driver is probably lack of control and inability to see things coming (the opposite of driving). I plan on addressing in person later today.
f86sabre
> cazzyodo
09/26/2013 at 16:43 |
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I'm an aerospace engineer who works for an airline. Feel free to post any questions she may have about flying and the planes. I would be happy to answer them. The planes are very strong, the systems are redundant and the pilots are good. Really.
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cazzyodo
> f86sabre
09/26/2013 at 16:46 |
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"idk if I have questions. But that's nice." -gf
Thanks!
fink stinger
> Icemanmaybeirunoutofthetalents
09/26/2013 at 16:47 |
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I am right there with you on number 3. I blame "turn off all electronics". It's been so many years at this point that I can't even keep my eyes open once the plane starts to taxi. The little "ding! you may now use approved electronics" is like an alarm clock.
Montalvo
> BJ
09/26/2013 at 17:34 |
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100% this. I normally am completely relaxed when flying and I can make myself fall asleep at a drop of a hat which is nice for long flights but I gave this a go just to see if it actually works and it did. It relaxes the body in some way and is helpful if you can't fall asleep or you are stressed.
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Chteelers
> BrazilianRobotics
09/27/2013 at 08:19 |
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That's an interesting way to look at it. Kind of like an adventure ride. Cool input dude.
